《情》英語演講稿

Eversincethedawningofthehistoryofmankind,therehave

beenmyriadsofdiversifedinventions,discoveries,andevenexplorationsofthemysteriesoftheuniverse.Infact,thehumanbeingsaresointelligentthatwehavesolvedalmostallkindsofproblemswehaveconfrontedwith. However,nobodyhasevermadeoutwhattheword“love”reallyconnotes,noteventhemostfamouspeoplesuchasgreatpoliticians,saintsandphilosopherscanclarifythemeaningof“love”,neithercantheydealwiththevariousaffairsconcerninglove.Loveislikeahugeboundlessnetthatshroudsusallin.Wecanneitherbreakawayfromitnorescapefromit.Likeitornot,wearealwaysentangledinit.Itisaninvisiblenetwithoutanyform,thatshroudsindifferentpeoplefromdifferentangels;Itisamercilessnetthatupsetsusoreventorturesustodeath.Itisalsoasupremenetwhichalmostnohumancansurpass.Eveniftheyareheroes,emperors,wisemenorsaints,theycandonothingbutshowtheirhelplessnessinitsface.Thosewhocanbreathethroughtheholesofthenetshouldberegardedbeyondcommonnessandvulgarity.Lovecanbringustemporarycomfortandhappiness,butmostlytheybringaboutannoyanceandsufferings.Maybethisisthereasonwhymanypeoplehaveseenthroughtheillusionsofthemortalworld.Howeveritisnotsoeasytobreakawayfromthisboundless,ever-existingandindifferentnetoflove. Loveisvariedandchangeable,butroughlyitcanbedividedintothreecategories:familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylove.NotlikeMonkeyKingwhojumpedoutoftherocks,wewereallbornaftermother'spregnancyofaboutninemonths,hencewehavecountlessrelativeswithoutanychoice:parents,grand-parents,andgrand-parents-in-law,unclesandaunties,brothersandsisters,etc.andoncelookingatthegenealogicaltree,we'llseenoend.Familyloveiswhateveryonelongsfor,butthewarmthandsupportfromourbelovedonesarewhateveryoneyearnsforthemost.Buthowmanyofusaredeterminedtocontributetoourbelovedone?Andhowmany

don'texpectrepaymentandrelaxed.conscienceeveniftheyhavethedesireandpreparationtocontributetotheirbeloved.Thedistancebetweenrelativesisdifferentandsoaretheirexpectations.Butsinceit'sverydifficulttoknowhowmuchweshouldexpect,alotofworriesanddistressesemerge.

Parentsalwaysexpecttheirchildrentoshowtheirfilialobedience,oratleastpaythemfrequentvisitsaftertheyhavegotmarried.Ifthechildrenfailtodothis,theyfeelhurtandupset,andthey'llevencomplainabouttheirchildren,becausetheyjustcan'tunderstandwhytheirchildrendon'tcareaboutthemafterwhattheyhavedoneforthechildrenforsomanyyearstobringthemup.Nevertheless,one'sexperiencedetermineshisideology.Youngchildrenarenaturallyattachedtotheirparents,butwhentheygrowup,speciallywhentheyhavemadetheirownfriends,andgotmarried,whattheyneedmostisindependenceandfreedom,andparentssometimesmightbecometheirburden.Oncethereisgenerationgap,itbecomesmoredifficulttocommunicateandthiskeepsthemawayfromtheirparents.Objectivelyspeaking,theyneedmoreindependenceinordertoachievesuccess.Inthepresentsociety,whatthechildrenwanttohavemostistheeconomicsupportfromtheirparents,nottheirmoralsupportorguidance.Theywouldcomplainifyoureconomicsupportisnotuptotheirexpectations.Thelovefromunclesandauntieswouldnaturallydwindleaftertheyhavehadtheirownchildren.Onlythelovefromgrand-parentsandgrandparents-in-lawispureanddemandsnorepayment,andtheyarealsotoooldtowaitforanyrepayment.Asforthedistantrelatives,theirlovedependsontheirneeds,justastheoldsayinggoes“Thepoorhavenofriendseveniftheyliveindowntownwhiletherichhavedistantrelativeseveniftheyliveindeepmountains”.GrannyLiu,adistantkinsfolk,inADreamoftheRedMansions,claimskinshipwiththewealthyJiafamily,thinkingthatshemaybenefitfromitinsomeways.LiumighthaverunawaywithoutanytracesiftheJiafamilyhadbeenapoorone.Anothersaying

goes“Closeneighborsarebetterthandistantrelatives.”Themostdifficultistomanagetherelativeswhendoingbusinesstogether,justaswhattheTVseriesprogramLiuLaogendiscloses.Itisallrighttostaypoortogether,butassoonasthebusinessgrowsprosperous,thegroupwillbecomeestrangedandevendissolvebecauseoftheunfairdistribution.Familyloveislikeamazewhichweshouldn'tgotoofarintoit,otherwise,we'llsurelygetlost.Loveisabilateralmatterandunilaterallovecanonlyleadyoutonowhereinspiteofyourgoodintentions.Familyloveis,sometimes,likeanarrangedmarriage,leavingnochoicestoyou.Duetothedifferentexperiencesandtastes,stayingtogethertemporarilycanbeentertaining,whilelivingtogetherforalongtimecanonlybeboringduetothelackofcommoninterestandunderstanding.Howcanwecommunicatewitheachotherwithoutunderstanding?

Parentshavethedutytosupportthechildrenwhoarenotyeteconomicallyindependent,andchildrenhavetheresponsibilitytoprovidefortheelderlyparentswhoarelackofeconomicabilitiestosupportthemselves.Exceptthesetwokindsofdutieswhichwemustfulfill,otherkindsoflovebecomeconventionalformalitiessuchaspayingvisittothesickorthedeadandgivingpresentstothenewly-bornetc.. Noloveamongrelativeshasbecomeanormalphenomenonwhichneedn'ttobefussedabout.What'sworseiswhenloveiscontaminatedbymoney.Soonerorlaterwewillgethurt.Thesoonerwegetoutofthisnetoflove,themorewecanpreservebeautifulmemories. Wearenotlivinginvacuum,andthesocietyisformedofvariouskindsofpeople.Aslongaswewanttolive,study,orwork,wehavetocontact,communicateandcooperatewithothers.Thosewhoenjoycommoninterests,mutualunderstanding,commonundertakingsandcommonbenefitsbecomefriends. Somefriendsarecalledfair-weatherfriends,becausetheyaretogetherjustforentertainingthemselvesbyeating,drinking,andgossiping.Oncethere'snothingtoeatanddrink,theirfriendshipisfinished.Somearespiritualfriends

whosharecommonambitions,pursuitsandeducation.“Theyenjoytalkingandlaughingwiththegreattalentsandnevermakefriendswiththegood-for-nothings”.ThebestexampleswouldbeYuBoyaandZhongziqioftheancienttimeswhoarefamousnotonlyfortheirloftymusicbutmainlyfortheirloftycharactersandmutualunderstandingandappreciation.Theycaredverylittleaboutmaterialwealth,sotheirfriendshipisknownas“gentlemen'sfriendshipaspureaswater”.Thethirdtypeoffriendshipbelongtothosewhoshowtheirutterdevotiontoeachother.Theyarereadynotonlytosharewealandwoebutalsotodieforeachother,likethethreebrothersLiu,GuanandZhanginthenovelRomanceoftheThreeKingdoms..Weallwishtohavethiskindoffriendship,butit'sofgreatdifficultyfortheordinarypeopletobeasdevotedastheywere. Fraternalloveorfriendshipiswide-rangedandflexible.Generallyspeaking,everyoneisourfriend,justasChairmanMaosays“Ourfriendsareallovertheworld”.Buttranscendage,sex,nationality,stateandeconomicconditions.Tothemthemostimportantiscommonbenefit,commoninterestandunderstanding.Friendshipisformedduringthecourseofstudying,workingandfighting.Thebattlecompanionswhohavesurvivedmanyhazardsusuallyenjoylong-lastingfriendship. However,fraternalloveisnotstable.Beingawayfortooalongtime,losingallcommonbenefits,friendswillbecomeestranged.Oncetheirinteresthaschanged,theynolongerunderstandeachother,andeventhiswouldharmfriendship.Atalltimesandinallcountries,manyclosefriendsandbattlecompanionswhoonceworkedtogetherandfoughttogetherbecameenemiesintheend.

QuietafewoftheemperorsinancientChinaevenkilledthosewhohadhelpedthemfoundtheirdynasties.TheTaipingHeavenlyKingdomwouldnothavefailedifithadn'tbeenforthecontendingandmassacringamongthethosewhofirstroseinrebellionatthebeginningoftheuprising.Whatelseweneedtopayattentiontoisthatsomefriends,afterbeingawayfromeachotherfortoolongatime,havelostsomuchoftheir

originalcharactersthatwhenmeetingagain,youwillfeelthatyouarestillthesameasyouwere,whiletheyarenolongerthemselves.Theymayhavethesamefeelingaboutyou,sosometimesit'sbetternottomeeteachotheragain.AstheChineseproverbgoes“friendshipcannotlastforthreeyearsandflowerscannotstayinblossomforthreemonths”.It'snotsoeasytomaintainrealfriendshipwhichneedsmutualunderstanding,toleranceandsacrifice.Anykindsofharshtreatmentwilldamagefriendship. Amatorylovehasbeenamysteryforages.There'sneitheracriteriontojudgenoracommonruletofollow.Nobodycantelltheexactreasonswhyloveemerges.Itisnotalwaysbecauseofbeauty,norkindness

,norwisdom,norstrength.Trueloveislikegettinganelectricshock,shakingoursoul.Itisasweetdream,akindofintoxication,indulgence,andendlesspassion. Truelovedoesn'tneedalongtimetogrowup,tomakeclearthefamilytreeoftheother,neitherdoesitneedsthetimetolookaheadandbehindagainandagain.Loveisnotmarriage,whichusuallystartsfromlove,butdoesn'talwaysdependonlovetomaintain.Long-lastingmarriagecaneventuallyturnintoakindoffamilylove,akindofcompanionshipwhichpreservesthecompanionbutlosesthepassion.Loveisoftenanwinkoftheeye,orasmilethathintsmutualunderstanding.Inspiteofthegreatdistancebetweenthem,peoplemayfallinloveincidentally.Hencethesaying“adistantmarriageistiedupwithamysteriousthread”.Loveneedspassion,anditcanstandbumpsandstumbles,upsanddowns,complaintsandblames.Whenitturnsintoapoolofwater,especiallydeadwater,withoutanybillowsorwaves,it'stimeforittodie. Delicaciesaretasty,buteatingeverydaycanstillmakeoneloseappetite.Happinessiswhateveryonelongsfor,buttoomuchhappinesscanspoilpeoplewhomaynotcareaboutthehappinesstheyalreadyhave.It'suniversaltoliveinhappinesswithoutknowingit.Thesameistruewithlove.Veryfewpeoplecanlovethesamepersonpassionatelyalltheirlives.Alllovestoriescometoanendno

matterhowbeautifultheyare,whichalsodemonstratethechangeabilityoflove.Whatonehasbeenchasingwildlymayturnintosomethingonewantstogetridofdesperatelyintheend.

Besides,loveisusuallyblind,especiallythosewhofallinloveatthefirstsight.Attheverybeginning,bothtrytodemonstratetheirbeautifulsideandcoveruptheirWeakness.Fooledbythemysteriouscoloroflove,oneoftenmistakestheweaknessesasmerits.However,astimepassesby,frequentcontactsmakeonebored,andevenmeritsbecomedefects,andthentheendofloveiscoming.What'smore,therearethecapriciousmenandwomenwhonevertakeloveseriously,leavingthedevotedonessufferingalone.Thesayingthatthedevotedisalwaysabandonedbytheheartlesshasalmostbecomethetruthofloveaffairs.Whatwecan'tneglectisthatlovemayturnintohatred,andloversmayalsobecomeenemies.Thebestproofisthenumerousdivorces. Eventhoughtrueloveishardtofindnowadays,westillcanseesometrueandinfatuatedboysandgirlswhoreadilygiveuptheirfamilies,theirparents,theirstudies,theircareersandeventheirlivesforlove.Theylovesopassionately,crazilyandwildlythattheyhateanyonewhoisagainsttheirlove,andmayevenharmorkillhimifheinsistsonhisobjection. Lovehasmagicalpowerthatcanexploitpeople'spotentialabilities,bringpeople'spositivefactorsintofullplay,andprovidepeoplewiththecouragetofacetrialsandhardships,togothroughlifeanddeath,andeventoriskuniversalcondemnation.Evenintheancientfeudalsociety,somepeoplewerecourageousenoughtocarryonclandestineloveaffairs.Theexamplesinpointwerethecourageousoneswhodaredtolovetheconcubinesoftheemperorsorthechildrenoftheirfoes.Lovealsohasmiraculouspowerwhichcanstartletheuniverseandmovethegodsbyattractingtheheavenlycelestialscomingdowntoearth,andbyturningghostsintohuman.Lovecantranscendageandgeneration.lovecanshowcontemptforallconventionsandprejudices;lovecanhealwoundsandcurediseases,andlovecanreadjustpeople'sstateofmind.Of

course,theresultwouldbetheoppositeonceithurts. Greatmenyearnfortrueloveevenmorethanordinarypeople.Sincetheancienttimes,somanyheroescouldn'thelpfallingintothetrapoflovethatthesex-traphasbeenregardedasoneofthe

36stratagemsinmilitarytactics.Fuchai,thekingoftheWuState,couldn'tbesparedofthistrap,andGeneralsDongzhuoandLubufelldeeplyintoitwhileXiangyu,theKingoftheWesternChuState,bidfarewelltohisbelovedconcubineintears.Peoplemayhavetopayveryhighprice,eventheirillustriousnameforthelovetheylongforeventhoughitmaylastforonlyaveryshorttime.Nonethelessnoonecantearhimselfawayfromlove.Peopleoftensaythattheirearthlyaffinityisnotyetfinished,butinfactitistheloveaffinitythatisthemostdifficulttofinish. Loveisshapelessandpriceless.Wecanblamenobodywhencapturedbyit.Lovecannotbeforced,norcanitbepretended.Sympathyisnotlove,neitherisgratitude.Lovemustbegeneratedfromtheheart,andexpressedinactions.Itcannotbecalledlovewithoutpassionsandadeeplongingfromthebottomoftheheart.There'snoimpassablegulfbetweenfamilyloveandfraternallove.Somefamilylovemayturnintofriendship.Atthesametime,naturalbarriersdoesn'texisteitherbetweenfraternalloveandamatorylove.Somefriendshipmaydevelopintoamatorylove.Thesameistruewithamatorylovewhichmaychangeintofamilyloveafteralongtimeofmutualgrindingandpolishing.Theclosertherelationship,andthehighertheexpectationsare,themoredifficultitistogetalongwitheachother.Familylove,fraternalloveandamatorylovearethreemainhumanfeelings.Ifhandledwell,theycanbringusextremehappiness,whilehandledimproperly,willbringusgreatsufferings. Thepresentsocietyisaworldofdazzlingmoneyanddwindlinghumanfeelingcontacts.Mostpeopleholdasnobbishattitude.Theyonlymakefriendswithpeopleofwealthandofhighsocialstatus.JustasZhenShiyensaidinhisexpoundingofthesong“All